Keys To Becoming Confident, SELF HELP

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LEARN HOW TO BE CONFIDENT
When it comes to dating,
confidence is the underlying biggest ‘turn-on’
for people.
There is no denying that confidence is sexy and people are
attracted to it. Not only that, but it will also help you ask for a date.
But there is good news for
those who lack confidence –
Confidence is a skill people
learn. It is not part of the gene
pool, so no one is born with it.
Confidence is also tricky. Too
much confidence can come
across as arrogance, but if you
don’t have enough confidence
people may treat you like a
doormat.
What is unusual about
confidence is that you can
fake
it until you make it.
In other
words, if you put on a confident
front it can help make you feel
confident on the inside and
when you start to feel confident
on the inside it is obvious on
the outside.
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CONFIDENCE GUIDELINES
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Consider your posture
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Smile
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Have a firm handshake
– When you meet someone for the first time
in a new situation, confidently hold out hand and give a firm
handshake. This applies to both men and women.
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Use positive eye contact
– When
you look someone in the eye you
are telling him or her you are strong
and confident.
Note:
Don’t turn it
into a war of wills, or a staring
contest, and remember to look away
occasionally.
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Use a strong voice
– The sound we
produce with our vocal chords can
be strong, powerful, smooth, sexy,
etc. It is a great instrument. It also
says a lot about who we are; that is,
speak too softly and people may
assume you are afraid to speak up.
A simple guide for speaking is
breathe, speak slowly and speak up.
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Use your Diary of Victories
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Refer to the section on page 5.
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SELF-ESTEEM
Confidence is ultimately an expression of self-esteem.
Self-esteem is definitely something you can work on.
Try these suggestions to boost your self-esteem:
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Do something challenging
– Do something you would normally
think you couldn’t do. That might be as small as reading Romeo and
Juliet or as extreme as doing a sky-dive. Whatever it is, push your
boundaries and when you succeed at it you will like yourself more.
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Do some volunteer work
– Besides being a great way to help others
and meet potential dates, you will garner appreciation for your work
and who you are. This is certain to boost your self-esteem.
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Practise positive self talk
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Every day we look in the mirror
at least once and some of us
forty times or more. Each time
we look in the mirror we tell
ourselves things. The self-talk
can be positive or negative.
People tend to be negative in
their self-talk, but we do have a
choice. Make an effort to say
positive things about yourself
when you look in the mirror.
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Every day we all look in the
mirror at least once and some of
us forty times or more. Each
time we mirror-look we also do a
self-talk. The self-talk can be
positive or negative. People tend
to be negative in their self-talk
but we have a choice.
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DIARY OF VICTORIES
By keeping a Diary of Victories you will build up your self-esteem. It will
help increase your confidence and chances of dating.
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Buy a book to use for a Diary of your Victories.
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Write in the book when you feel good about something in relation to
dating and/or succeed at a task.
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Read this Diary of Victories at the end of each day.
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Carry the diary with you and read it whenever you need to feel good.
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